Updated: Aug 25
Our subconscious mind will always give us what we want even though we may not think so at the time.
I had another client, a very quiet 64 year old lady who came to me to find out why she had hurt her wrist – she had a suspected fracture. Isobel was a great believer that the mind creates everything that happens to you and wanted to know why she would have the broken wrist at this time when she was so busy and stressed.
That morning that Isobel came to see me she had walked into a plate glass door. I thought she was very lucky she only had a suspected fracture of the wrist! She looked terrible. She was white, her face was drawn and I thought she was probably still in shock, however despite the suspected fracture she would not go for x-rays until she had found out the reason for her ‘accident.’
It seems that she had been looking after her mother who had been very ill for many years and it was starting to get Isobel down mentally, emotionally and physically. Her mum needed care 24/7 and my client was exhausted.
As we worked together it was clear that Isobel needed a break from her mum – she was worn out with the caring of her but felt trapped by her mother’s needs. She loved her too much to put her into a nursing home but could not manage to look after her any more either. They had been very close all her life so no matter how much she needed to put her mother into a nursing home she just couldn’t do it.
While her mother needed her help, Isobel needed a ‘break’ from it all. And this is exactly what her mind gave her – her break in her wrist was just enough to prevent her being able to look after her mum.
Because the subconscious mind cannot judge between a ‘break’ meaning time out and a ‘break’ of the wrist, her mind heard her loud and clear and delivered her break but not in the manner that she thought.
It meant that she could no longer look after her mother and was forced to put her in a nursing home – which in the long term proved to be the best thing for both of them.
She and I then worked on getting her mind to heal the break properly; released all the stress over her codependence with her mum while also not surprisingly, releasing a lot of resentment she had to her husband who did not help with the chores she had to do.
So, if Isobel had listened to her words “I need a break” she might have recognized some deep issues that needed attending to and prevented herself having to break her wrist to get her attention. Listen very carefully to the words you use - they may be expressed in a way that you don’t expect!
Both fortunately and unfortunately the subconscious mind behaves just like a computer – what you get out is what you put in.
It is also very fortunate because once you have an illness or problem we can get your subconscious mind to clear out negative thoughts, beliefs and emotions so that you can have your desired health.
Here is one great little exercise you can do so that you get clarity.
Decide that you will stand tall and that if you ask your mind a question you will get the answer ‘yes’ by swaying forward and if you sway backward the answer is ‘no’. You can now do the following exercise to get some insight into your mind:
a) Work out a question that requires a ‘yes’ or ‘no’ answer.
b) Stand up
c) Stand tall
d) Ask yourself that question
e) Your subconscious mind will give you either a ‘yes’ or a ‘no’ answer.
For example, if you have a head cold your questions could be:
Is this cold something to do with my work?
Is this cold something to do with my house?
Is this cold something to do with my partner?
Is this cold something to do with a member of my family?
Once you have your answer, ask yourself how old you are. It is not unusual to find that your 10-year-old self is giving you a cold so that you don’t go to work now as a 40-year-old!
You can ask anything you wish to ask as long as you remain in neutral, i.e. you do not anticipate what the answer will be. Your subconscious mind will give you the answer.
Always remember that the subconscious mind does not judge and cannot tell the difference between what we thought when we were a youngster and what we are thinking now – it just reacts. You may be surprised at the answers you get.