When you meet up with the love of your life you feel as if you have known them forever. They feel familiar, easy to be with , comfortable.
Your subconscious mind seeks our your childhood environment
When we fall in love our subconscious mind is recreating the environment of the past so that you can heal old childhood wounds.
This is because they hold the very quality that is missing from your life when you were a child in your original family. You have been attracted to this man or woman because you want them to fill the gap that is missing in your childhood.
It might be that you weren't close to your father - and you marry a man who you want to be close to you.
It might be that you missed a mother's deep love - and you attract a woman who you want to love you dearly and without reservation including loving all your faults and foibles. .
Recognise what is missing from your childhood...
You will stay together as long as you recognise what was missing from your childhood, allow yourself to heal that particular aspect of your being. Only then can the bond between you continue to grow so that you can have an adult relationship, not one of satisfying deep and often unrecognised needs.
Unfortunately many couples don't know about nor value this aspect of their partner and conflict starts, sometimes leading to divorce. They recognise that the partner 'isn't what they thought he or she would be " and conflict occurs.
Bringing the subconscious thoughts, beliefs and emotions forward to heal
If they can create a safe space where they can discuss these issues that they have each brought forward from their childhood, and allow that part to heal then they can build a far deeper relationship and foundation for their marriage and continue to grow together.